Never okay. Never normal.
Abusive men are never okay. Abusing women is never okay.
This is never okay. This is never normal. Stop justifying it’s normal.
I’m not a hater. I’m a hater of those who abuse women and cycle through them like they’re toast.
The dignity is the floor. · Only humans score.
There’s no “other hand” on this page, and that’s on purpose. Most of this house steelmans the other side — but a floor is the one thing you don’t get to vote on. Hating cruelty isn’t hate; it’s the shape love takes when it meets someone who preys on the vulnerable. You cannot be for a person’s dignity and neutral about the ones who treat her like something disposable. The only loss is the shrug in the middle — and normalizing abuse is the shrug.
If you’re living this — you are not stuck, and it is not your fault. In the U.S., the National Domestic Violence Hotline is free, confidential, and open every hour: 1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE), or text START to 88788, or chat at thehotline.org. In an emergency, call 911.
You don’t get to vote on the floor. Never okay; never normal; stop calling it either.
A machine can weigh both sides of anything. Only a human knows the one thing that has no other side. ;