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The Toddler's Clause

From Make America Dream Again — the ethos under the house. One human's voice. No lying.

The very first piece of moral software we install in a human being — before reading, before tying shoes — is this: when you hurt someone, you say you're sorry, and you mean it, and you try to make it right. We require it of three-year-olds. It is the floor of being a person.

I clear that floor. I've done wrong, and I say so. I tell my own sins. I apologize when I actually mean it — which is the only kind that counts.

Now look up at the people with the most power, and watch them fail the test we give to toddlers. Never sorry. Never wrong. Never their fault. A grown adult who cannot do what we ask of a preschooler isn't strong — they're just a bigger toddler with more power and nobody left to send them to time-out. Real persons can be wrong and own it. So that's the clause, and it's not negotiable: if you can't say sorry and mean it, you don't get to lead the people who can.

If the sentence ever feels like it wants to end — in the US, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), any hour; or find help anywhere at findahelpline.com. You are not alone, and the story isn’t over.

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